What you need to know about keeping your Nanny from quitting

Why being nice to your nanny counts?

As a working mother with children, the last thing you would want to hear from your nanny is, “I am giving you my week’s’ notice.” Leaving you wondering, why nannies quit?

The answer to your question would be in the fact that, and you know it –you chose to ignore dealing with those pesky frictions.

Here’s why you should work to keep your good nanny

  • It can certainly be challenging dealing with another caregiver.  You and the nanny may have different ideas about how to discipline and educate a child.  You may each also have different expectations about what the job entails.
  • It is unrealistic to hope that all aspects of your relationship with the nanny are always going to be happily in sync.

What is important for you to understand is that constant dialogue and communication between you and the nanny is crucial if you are to avoid serious misunderstandings which could lead to resentment or even loss of the person that you may have become so dependent on.

Always be ready to keep an open mind, be flexible and willing to compromise.  Even though you are the employer who is paying her salary, you probably need her every bit as much as she needs the job.

I have found that it is a good idea to have a sit-down session every so often to discuss any concerns or frustrations that either of you are having.

It is important, of course, to be diplomatic when voicing a criticism.  This allows both of you not to let any disagreements fester and become toxic to the work arrangement.

It is also essential to be very precise and thorough at the time of an interview to let the nanny know what your expectations of her are.

Describe clearly what she can expect as vacation time, paid sick days and paid holidays.

Once you have created an atmosphere where there is openness, respect and trust working together with your nanny will be a happy one.

How to ensure a smooth transition for your new Nanny

 

Special Child Care Services, Nanny SerivcesIt can be stressful to have a new caregiver, both for the child and the parents. Your little one may be very upset that his or her favorite nanny is leaving, or in the case where this is a first nanny, when a parent will not be present all day. Planning ahead can help ensure a smooth transition for your new Nanny and your child.

Allow Time for Adjustment
Your child will be attached to the person who cared for him or her previously, be it a parent or a nanny. Be sure to let your child know why the change is occurring and allow him to feel sad if necessary. In some cases, it is beneficial for the child to stay in contact with their old nanny.

Your child may be able to help find a new nanny by adding his or her input on what characteristics a caregiver should have. Your child can also be involved during the selection process and interviews.

Inform Your Nanny

A new nanny has a lot to learn, so allow for some transition time. Let the new nanny know what your child likes and dislikes and what he used to do with his other nanny. The more information given, the faster the process will go.

Stay Consistent

When a new caregiver enters the picture, you should do everything possible to give her the tools to keep your child on a schedule. Naps and meals should be at the same time every day, following the schedule your child is used to. This includes what is acceptable behavior and any limitations you place on foods, electronics, etc. The overall consistency will help your child feel safe and secure.

Transition Gradually

There’s no need to make the change an abrupt one. Instead, have the new caregiver visit for short periods of time while you or a familiar nanny are there. This will allow your child to get used to the new person and create a bond. It is important that parents show that they trust the nanny when you are all together. This will help your child understand that this is someone to trust.

Infantry, Child Care Serives In NYMake Adjustments as Needed

Children are constantly in flux and this can be confusing for them. If you are only occasionally bringing in the nanny, this can be difficult to adjust to. Instead of doing just three full days of childcare, you might want to change to five days a week, reducing the hours, so your child has a consistent time when their nanny is around. This will depend greatly on your job and how well you can make your schedule work for you. Many nannies will prefer daily jobs, as well.

How to Say Goodbye

Teaching your child to say goodbye to a favorite person for the time being. It can be very difficult for a small child to understand that you are coming back at a specific time. It’s a good idea to say goodbye as a child is heading out to the park or to do something fun. They’ll feel like they are the ones about to have fun rather than being abandoned. You should also let your child know that you are going somewhere and tell him when you will be back again. Don’t drag out the goodbye, even if the child is upset. Make it fast and definite.

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What you should know when hiring a domestic couple

If you are fortunate enough to require the services of a domestic couple there are several matters which you should consider before you begin your search.

It has been my experience as the owner of a domestic placement service, that when placing a couple, one member of the couple is often a stronger candidate than the other.

The tasks usually performed by the woman include indoor maintenance: cleaning, cooking, and laundry. The man usually takes care of the  outdoor maintenance which includes ground keeping,  pool maintenance, car maintenance driving etc.  In the event that you must accept a lower standard from one member of the couple, you should decide which of their duties are more important to you.

The more rigid you are about your demands, the smaller the pool becomes from which you can choose.  Alternatively, the more flexible you are willing to be, the larger the pool will be from which you will have to choose.

For example, some  domestic couples have a school age child.  Would you consider a couple with a child?

Sometimes the husband is the better cook and the wife is the better gardener: would you mind if the couple divided the tasks between themselves?

Think about whether you are willing to offer the couple health insurance, a private dwelling, cost of their food and a car.

In an effort to expand the possibilities available to you, consider the option of hiring one person who would live in and the other live out.  Still another option would be to hire a couple to live in and allow them to sleep in their own home a few nights a week.  Or you could hire a couple and have one of them work full time and the other part time, allowing them to pursue another part time job.

But regardless of your work and time arrangements, it is essential that your staff is happy with their situation.

 

 

 

 

Why You Need A Nanny

Why You Need a Nanny

 Many young women are faced with the decision of whether or not to pursue their career if they have children.

One argument women give in favor of staying home is that the cost of child care is so high, that after paying the nanny, not enough money is left over to make a job worth while.

However, there are counter arguments to this logic.  Even if the cost of a nanny does not leave much over after you are increasing your chances for future success by not leaving the workplace.  If a woman leaves her career for several years, she often returns to start at the lowest rung.  Sometimes many changes and innovations have occurred leaving the returning individual at a significant disadvantage.

There are several ways of cutting the cost of a nanny.  If you only need part time coverage, or if you have only one or 2 children, you may share a nanny with a friend or neighbor.

For women who assume the total care of household management and total care of their children, the assistance offered by a nanny can be a lifesaver.  Often a mom’s schedule involves transporting children to various activities all at the same time.  You may also have young children who would prefer to stay home instead of being taken along to all of your necessary errands.

It can also be  stressful to keep children busy and entertained while attending to other necessary duties.  A helping hand from a nanny or au pair can be very useful.  There is no reason to assume, if you find the right nanny, that your children will not be happy and well cared for.

If you can avoid stress by getting some help, you will enable yourself to  be happier and more relaxed so that both you and your children will be better off.

A Few Quick Tips about Hiring a Housekeeper

It is difficult to evaluate someone`s capability for performing household tasks if you yourself are unfamiliar with doing them.  A housekeeper may come to your home intending to use cleaning products or instrument that are familiar to her while you may want her to use completely different cleaning materials. For example, many people today want only “Green” products, which are environmentally friendly used in their homes.

It is best to be familiar with the tasks which need to be done so that you can instruct the new housekeeper and get her started in a manner which is acceptable to you.

If at the time of the interview the applicant seems reluctant about any of your requests or demands, it is best not to hire this person.

For instance, certain days or hours may be important to you and the applicant states that these days or times don’t really work for her.  She agrees never the less to take the job.  It has been my experience that this person will not last very long.  She will stay only until she finds what better suits her needs.

If a housekeeper asks you to loan her money, which she agrees to repay by partial deductions from her salary, it is best to refuse.  I have often heard stories of a housekeeper becoming indignant and claiming to the employer that the loan has already been repaid when it has not. The situation can become very muddled and usually will not work to your benefit.  Do not pay the salary in advance and make sure there is a very clear understanding of what her benefits and paid vacations are.

Do not settle for what you feel is mediocre work.  Employers usually give a person a trial.  If after several attempts to show and explain to the housekeeper how you want things done, it remains unsatisfactory, you should let that person go.   Usually housekeepers do their best work when they start a job and become less enthusiastic as time goes on.

How A Nanny Changed Our Lives – Find The Perfect One Today!

How a nanny changed our lives!

One of my clients, who is a working mom, called me to request a new nanny.  She had called me several times on prior occasions, and I was always successful in finding a lovely girl for her.

On this occasion she seemed quite overwhelmed.  She needed somebody very intelligent, resourceful, energetic, and she needed her immediately.  She had four children between the ages of 9 and 15.

I found a lovely European girl who was interested in a live in job with older children.  This seemed to be a perfect fit but I did not realize how perfect.  It was a match made in heaven.

She sent the following email to someone and cc’d it to me.

“Our nanny, in her 20’s, entered our home and our lives have changed.The nanny is quite an extraordinary girl who has great discipline and a lot of common sense.  She is a strong role model for the children.”

It was a lengthy letter going into detail about how this young girl changed the dynamics and life style of the whole family.

“This nanny keeps a very healthy diet even if it means eating something different from the rest of the family.  When everybody snacks on ice cream and chips, she eats fruit instead.  As you know,  we are all  somewhat overweight.  The nanny created a game, which was a contest to see who could lose the most weight.  She encouraged the kids to exercise and jog with her. The children seemed eager to improve their appearance and just needed a nudge and a lot of praise.  They wanted to please her!”

“When I saw how the attitude of my children changed about eating and exercise I was shamed into falling into line.  It seems the nanny is a wealth of information about nutrition. On another front, the nanny changed how the kids interact.  They were always fighting and yelling at each other. She taught them to take a breath, wait until they calmed down and then clearly explain why they were upset.  It seemed that most disputes could be settled  when the kids calmed down,  presented their feelings in a logical way and she would mediate. I think Mary Poppins has entered my life.”

God willing, maybe you can find such a nanny for yourself!

Have You Outgrown Your Nanny?

It is unlikely that the same nanny that you chose so carefully for your newborn will still be the best choice for your toddler or young preteen.

I have often found that someone who specializes in the care of a newborn is less energetic when it comes to engaging a toddler. It becomes a different type of job.

Much specialized knowledge is necessary for the proper care for a new baby. In addition to being knowledgeable, it is important that the person be very experienced. Often, part of the job involves having the baby nurse stay awake a good part of the night. We expect that a baby nurse will be very mature, and usually she will have had children of her own.

In the care of toddlers a different skill set becomes necessary for the job. It has been my experience that younger nannies who have not had children of their own yet tend to be very energetic and engage well with young toddlers. They enjoy getting on the floor and playing games, going to the park etc.

For some moms it is important that the nanny speak English very well. They feel that at a formative age their child should be exposed to correct grammar in order to lay the foundation for the child`s skillful use of language in years to come. But for other mothers the ability of the nanny to speak a second language is more important to them than having the nanny speak perfect English.

For the care of teenagers many moms seek a more mature person who the children will view as more authoritarian.

As your children grow up, the nature of what constitutes the ideal caretaker may change several times.

Of course I am making broad generalizations, and an individual may find that none of this pertains to them. However, these are practical considerations, which I have found to be significant over the years.

Keep An Open Mind When Looking For A Housekeeper or Nanny

I have been running a housekeeper / nanny service for the past 40 years, and because of my qualifications in this field, I believe that I am an expert in finding the best help for people.

The single biggest mistake that people often  make is in the way that they narrow down  the field of possible candidates.

Very often an employer will call me to ask my assistance in finding a housekeeper or nanny for their home and say, “ my last girl was in her 20’s, from Poland and she was great.  Please find me the same thing.”  After further discussion I realize they will allow no latitude.  They do not want anybody younger or older or from any other country of origin.

Conversely, I may get a call saying,” I just had the worst experience.  I had a woman in her 50’s from Trinidad and she was awful.  Don’t send me anybody in that age group and definitely do not send me anybody from Trinidad.”

I certainly can understand somebody’s personal experience in this type of situation, but as someone who has dealt with thousands of employees, I am confident that these people are compromising their chances of finding the best possible worker.

The best applicants can come from anywhere and be of  almost any age.  Preconceived ideas based on limited experiences are simply counterproductive.  I have found the best and worst applicants coming from the same country.

Another suggestion I would make is for am employer to consider an applicant for housekeeping or child-care who has been out of the work force for a while.

Sometimes I interview a woman who has been a mom and homemaker and would now like to do the same type of work and get paid.

If an employer is at home and can monitor the ability of the person they hired, they should consider someone who does not have references in that field but has plenty of personal experience.

If your goal is to find the very best candidate to watch your children or clean your home, you should keep an open mind and make an effort to expand the pool of people from which to choose.

Creative Ways To Save Money While Employing A Nanny

The cost of employing a nanny for parents who work a very long day can be prohibitive.  In addition, many families also need to hire some household help once a week  which brings the total still higher.

I have spoken to many parents over the years that have dropped out of the work force because of the prohibitive expenses of child-care .

Having been involved with a nanny agency for the past 37 years I have learned that there are creative ways to cut the cost of help in your home and possibly make access to a nanny possible when you might have assumed that  this was not affordable.

  • Often, a parent needs someone at home to see a child off, or take a child to school in the morning. After the children are gone there is no need for someone to be at home until later in the afternoon.   You can try to arrange a job for several hours for your nanny while you don’t really need her.   I often suggest this to a parent.  I arrange a job for 3 or 4 hours for the nanny nearby which allows her to make even more money.  This also lets someone whose needs are very part time to engage a nanny and lets parents pay less by cutting down on the excess hours which they would have otherwise  had to pay for.
  • Often parents engage a nanny for a very long day to do a job, which requires only a few hours of real work. For example: parents have one young child who naps twice a day.  When hiring a nanny, who you know will have many free hours, the job requirement should include housekeeping and some cooking.
  • Another way to cut down costs is to consider sharing a nanny with another family. If you and a neighbor each have similar needs, and between you have not more than 3 kids, this should be a consideration.

Creative ways to cut down the cost of child-care can be a lifesaver for many families. Contact us today to find the perfect nanny while saving money!

 

 

 

 

 

What to Consider When Hiring a Domestic Couple

Domestic couples are usually, but not always, married couples who live on the premises of an estate and care for the inside and outside maintenance of a large property.

Before hiring a domestic couple you should consider certain factors.

Do you have a formal home, which requires sophisticated culinary skills and knowledge of proper serving at a dinner table? Will it be acceptable to you if the couple has children living with them? Obviously young children who require care would be unacceptable but you should decide how you would feel about teenagers living at your estate.

Would you hire a couple that is not married?

Do you want a real “hands on” couple who do most of the work themselves or employees who act in a more supervisory role?

Would you consider people who are experienced with the duties you require but have not worked as a couple before?

In order to broaden the pool from which to choose, would you consider a couple who live nearby and would sleep in their own home a few nights a week instead of sleeping at your estate every night?

Another thing to consider is whether it would be acceptable to have a couple with one outstanding worker while the other one is just average.

Once you have clearly defined what your needs, expectations and possible compromises will be, the next step would be to call a domestic employment agency.

Once you have made your choice you should be very clear about your expectations and what you are prepared to offer. Many couple will demand medical benefits and a retirement package. If you expect the couple to be on call any time you need them, rather than set hours, that should be clearly stated and agreed to before the couple is hired.

Finding the right couple can be quite challenging but with the help of a good domestic employment agency the stress of this challenge may be avoided.