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What you need to know about keeping your Nanny from quitting

Why being nice to your nanny counts?

As a working mother with children, the last thing you would want to hear from your nanny is, “I am giving you my week’s’ notice.” Leaving you wondering, why nannies quit?

The answer to your question would be in the fact that, and you know it –you chose to ignore dealing with those pesky frictions.

Here’s why you should work to keep your good nanny

  • It can certainly be challenging dealing with another caregiver.  You and the nanny may have different ideas about how to discipline and educate a child.  You may each also have different expectations about what the job entails.
  • It is unrealistic to hope that all aspects of your relationship with the nanny are always going to be happily in sync.

What is important for you to understand is that constant dialogue and communication between you and the nanny is crucial if you are to avoid serious misunderstandings which could lead to resentment or even loss of the person that you may have become so dependent on.

Always be ready to keep an open mind, be flexible and willing to compromise.  Even though you are the employer who is paying her salary, you probably need her every bit as much as she needs the job.

I have found that it is a good idea to have a sit-down session every so often to discuss any concerns or frustrations that either of you are having.

It is important, of course, to be diplomatic when voicing a criticism.  This allows both of you not to let any disagreements fester and become toxic to the work arrangement.

It is also essential to be very precise and thorough at the time of an interview to let the nanny know what your expectations of her are.

Describe clearly what she can expect as vacation time, paid sick days and paid holidays.

Once you have created an atmosphere where there is openness, respect and trust working together with your nanny will be a happy one.

How to ensure a smooth transition for your new Nanny

 

Special Child Care Services, Nanny SerivcesIt can be stressful to have a new caregiver, both for the child and the parents. Your little one may be very upset that his or her favorite nanny is leaving, or in the case where this is a first nanny, when a parent will not be present all day. Planning ahead can help ensure a smooth transition for your new Nanny and your child.

Allow Time for Adjustment
Your child will be attached to the person who cared for him or her previously, be it a parent or a nanny. Be sure to let your child know why the change is occurring and allow him to feel sad if necessary. In some cases, it is beneficial for the child to stay in contact with their old nanny.

Your child may be able to help find a new nanny by adding his or her input on what characteristics a caregiver should have. Your child can also be involved during the selection process and interviews.

Inform Your Nanny

A new nanny has a lot to learn, so allow for some transition time. Let the new nanny know what your child likes and dislikes and what he used to do with his other nanny. The more information given, the faster the process will go.

Stay Consistent

When a new caregiver enters the picture, you should do everything possible to give her the tools to keep your child on a schedule. Naps and meals should be at the same time every day, following the schedule your child is used to. This includes what is acceptable behavior and any limitations you place on foods, electronics, etc. The overall consistency will help your child feel safe and secure.

Transition Gradually

There’s no need to make the change an abrupt one. Instead, have the new caregiver visit for short periods of time while you or a familiar nanny are there. This will allow your child to get used to the new person and create a bond. It is important that parents show that they trust the nanny when you are all together. This will help your child understand that this is someone to trust.

Infantry, Child Care Serives In NYMake Adjustments as Needed

Children are constantly in flux and this can be confusing for them. If you are only occasionally bringing in the nanny, this can be difficult to adjust to. Instead of doing just three full days of childcare, you might want to change to five days a week, reducing the hours, so your child has a consistent time when their nanny is around. This will depend greatly on your job and how well you can make your schedule work for you. Many nannies will prefer daily jobs, as well.

How to Say Goodbye

Teaching your child to say goodbye to a favorite person for the time being. It can be very difficult for a small child to understand that you are coming back at a specific time. It’s a good idea to say goodbye as a child is heading out to the park or to do something fun. They’ll feel like they are the ones about to have fun rather than being abandoned. You should also let your child know that you are going somewhere and tell him when you will be back again. Don’t drag out the goodbye, even if the child is upset. Make it fast and definite.

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Why You Need A Nanny

Why You Need a Nanny

 Many young women are faced with the decision of whether or not to pursue their career if they have children.

One argument women give in favor of staying home is that the cost of child care is so high, that after paying the nanny, not enough money is left over to make a job worth while.

However, there are counter arguments to this logic.  Even if the cost of a nanny does not leave much over after you are increasing your chances for future success by not leaving the workplace.  If a woman leaves her career for several years, she often returns to start at the lowest rung.  Sometimes many changes and innovations have occurred leaving the returning individual at a significant disadvantage.

There are several ways of cutting the cost of a nanny.  If you only need part time coverage, or if you have only one or 2 children, you may share a nanny with a friend or neighbor.

For women who assume the total care of household management and total care of their children, the assistance offered by a nanny can be a lifesaver.  Often a mom’s schedule involves transporting children to various activities all at the same time.  You may also have young children who would prefer to stay home instead of being taken along to all of your necessary errands.

It can also be  stressful to keep children busy and entertained while attending to other necessary duties.  A helping hand from a nanny or au pair can be very useful.  There is no reason to assume, if you find the right nanny, that your children will not be happy and well cared for.

If you can avoid stress by getting some help, you will enable yourself to  be happier and more relaxed so that both you and your children will be better off.

How A Nanny Changed Our Lives – Find The Perfect One Today!

How a nanny changed our lives!

One of my clients, who is a working mom, called me to request a new nanny.  She had called me several times on prior occasions, and I was always successful in finding a lovely girl for her.

On this occasion she seemed quite overwhelmed.  She needed somebody very intelligent, resourceful, energetic, and she needed her immediately.  She had four children between the ages of 9 and 15.

I found a lovely European girl who was interested in a live in job with older children.  This seemed to be a perfect fit but I did not realize how perfect.  It was a match made in heaven.

She sent the following email to someone and cc’d it to me.

“Our nanny, in her 20’s, entered our home and our lives have changed.The nanny is quite an extraordinary girl who has great discipline and a lot of common sense.  She is a strong role model for the children.”

It was a lengthy letter going into detail about how this young girl changed the dynamics and life style of the whole family.

“This nanny keeps a very healthy diet even if it means eating something different from the rest of the family.  When everybody snacks on ice cream and chips, she eats fruit instead.  As you know,  we are all  somewhat overweight.  The nanny created a game, which was a contest to see who could lose the most weight.  She encouraged the kids to exercise and jog with her. The children seemed eager to improve their appearance and just needed a nudge and a lot of praise.  They wanted to please her!”

“When I saw how the attitude of my children changed about eating and exercise I was shamed into falling into line.  It seems the nanny is a wealth of information about nutrition. On another front, the nanny changed how the kids interact.  They were always fighting and yelling at each other. She taught them to take a breath, wait until they calmed down and then clearly explain why they were upset.  It seemed that most disputes could be settled  when the kids calmed down,  presented their feelings in a logical way and she would mediate. I think Mary Poppins has entered my life.”

God willing, maybe you can find such a nanny for yourself!

Have You Outgrown Your Nanny?

It is unlikely that the same nanny that you chose so carefully for your newborn will still be the best choice for your toddler or young preteen.

I have often found that someone who specializes in the care of a newborn is less energetic when it comes to engaging a toddler. It becomes a different type of job.

Much specialized knowledge is necessary for the proper care for a new baby. In addition to being knowledgeable, it is important that the person be very experienced. Often, part of the job involves having the baby nurse stay awake a good part of the night. We expect that a baby nurse will be very mature, and usually she will have had children of her own.

In the care of toddlers a different skill set becomes necessary for the job. It has been my experience that younger nannies who have not had children of their own yet tend to be very energetic and engage well with young toddlers. They enjoy getting on the floor and playing games, going to the park etc.

For some moms it is important that the nanny speak English very well. They feel that at a formative age their child should be exposed to correct grammar in order to lay the foundation for the child`s skillful use of language in years to come. But for other mothers the ability of the nanny to speak a second language is more important to them than having the nanny speak perfect English.

For the care of teenagers many moms seek a more mature person who the children will view as more authoritarian.

As your children grow up, the nature of what constitutes the ideal caretaker may change several times.

Of course I am making broad generalizations, and an individual may find that none of this pertains to them. However, these are practical considerations, which I have found to be significant over the years.

Keep An Open Mind When Looking For A Housekeeper or Nanny

I have been running a housekeeper / nanny service for the past 40 years, and because of my qualifications in this field, I believe that I am an expert in finding the best help for people.

The single biggest mistake that people often  make is in the way that they narrow down  the field of possible candidates.

Very often an employer will call me to ask my assistance in finding a housekeeper or nanny for their home and say, “ my last girl was in her 20’s, from Poland and she was great.  Please find me the same thing.”  After further discussion I realize they will allow no latitude.  They do not want anybody younger or older or from any other country of origin.

Conversely, I may get a call saying,” I just had the worst experience.  I had a woman in her 50’s from Trinidad and she was awful.  Don’t send me anybody in that age group and definitely do not send me anybody from Trinidad.”

I certainly can understand somebody’s personal experience in this type of situation, but as someone who has dealt with thousands of employees, I am confident that these people are compromising their chances of finding the best possible worker.

The best applicants can come from anywhere and be of  almost any age.  Preconceived ideas based on limited experiences are simply counterproductive.  I have found the best and worst applicants coming from the same country.

Another suggestion I would make is for am employer to consider an applicant for housekeeping or child-care who has been out of the work force for a while.

Sometimes I interview a woman who has been a mom and homemaker and would now like to do the same type of work and get paid.

If an employer is at home and can monitor the ability of the person they hired, they should consider someone who does not have references in that field but has plenty of personal experience.

If your goal is to find the very best candidate to watch your children or clean your home, you should keep an open mind and make an effort to expand the pool of people from which to choose.

Creative Ways To Save Money While Employing A Nanny

The cost of employing a nanny for parents who work a very long day can be prohibitive.  In addition, many families also need to hire some household help once a week  which brings the total still higher.

I have spoken to many parents over the years that have dropped out of the work force because of the prohibitive expenses of child-care .

Having been involved with a nanny agency for the past 37 years I have learned that there are creative ways to cut the cost of help in your home and possibly make access to a nanny possible when you might have assumed that  this was not affordable.

  • Often, a parent needs someone at home to see a child off, or take a child to school in the morning. After the children are gone there is no need for someone to be at home until later in the afternoon.   You can try to arrange a job for several hours for your nanny while you don’t really need her.   I often suggest this to a parent.  I arrange a job for 3 or 4 hours for the nanny nearby which allows her to make even more money.  This also lets someone whose needs are very part time to engage a nanny and lets parents pay less by cutting down on the excess hours which they would have otherwise  had to pay for.
  • Often parents engage a nanny for a very long day to do a job, which requires only a few hours of real work. For example: parents have one young child who naps twice a day.  When hiring a nanny, who you know will have many free hours, the job requirement should include housekeeping and some cooking.
  • Another way to cut down costs is to consider sharing a nanny with another family. If you and a neighbor each have similar needs, and between you have not more than 3 kids, this should be a consideration.

Creative ways to cut down the cost of child-care can be a lifesaver for many families. Contact us today to find the perfect nanny while saving money!

 

 

 

 

 

Should your Nanny also be your Housekeeper?

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Is it reasonable to expect that the person who cares for your children should also maintain your home?  The answer depends on many factors.

The first factor to consider is whether both parents work full-time.  If the nanny is on her own as the caregiver, you cannot expect as much housekeeping to be done as you can when a parent is around at least part of the time.  Other factors, which must be considered, are how many children are being cared for, what are their ages, and just how much time and effort is required for the housekeepingl

You can probably expect very little care for the home if there are 2 or more children who require care.  If, on the other hand, most or all of the children are in school part of the day, you can expect the nanny to do some cleaning.

A logical way to determine a realistic set of expectations, would be to put yourself in the nanny`s situation and see what you could accomplish in a day when you are caring for your children.  If all your energy is sapped by child-care, you should not expect the nanny to do more than you are comfortable doing.

If there is a several hour gap when children are napping or in school, perhaps some cleaning or cooking could be expected.

At the time of the interview you may tell a prospective nanny that you expect a certain amount of housekeeping.  The employee may turn out to be an amazing nanny but she lets you know that anything beyond child-care is simply overwhelming and she is not prepared to do both.  You must then decide if you are willing to accept that situation.

Only if your nanny has a bloc of hours with absolutely nothing to do should you expect substantial housekeeping to be accomplished.  A Superwoman might do both simultaneously, but it is not realistic for you to expect that.

Assess your Situation:

  • How many hours is your nanny on her own with the children
  • How many children do you have and how old are they
  • How much time is the nanny spending on errands and just basic chores relating to the children.

It is also very important to be as clear and specific as possible at the time of the interview to let the nanny know what is most important to you and how you expect her to allocate her time.

Your Nanny Just Gave You Two Weeks Notice!

Your nanny just gave you two weeks notice!

You and your husband have very demanding responsibilities at your full time jobs, and your nanny just told you that she has accepted another position and is giving you two weeks notice.  You start to hyperventilate.  You are barely managing your life as it is; work, home, and children, not to mention any badly needed leisure.  You ask if she could give you more time to try to find somebody new because two weeks is just not enough time, but she says no.  The best thing you can do is to call a nanny service and explain your dilemma.

Is there anything you could have done to prevent this calamity or could you have seen this coming?  Maybe.  When an employee who is usually enthusiastic and engaged suddenly seems detached you need to take notice.  Or when your employee who is usually very agreeable begins making unreasonable demands such as asking for more time off or becoming very inflexible, you should consider these changes as warning signs which must not be ignored.

With a busy work schedule you know that 2 weeks in not enough time for this very important endeavor.   You don’t have many options so you spring into action.  On the one hand you want your next hire to be chosen carefully without feeling like you are under the gun.  One of your options is to ask the nanny agency if they have people who are interested in just filling in for short periods while you carefully look for a permanent person in the event that becomes necessary.

When interviewing people, make sure that you know how long that employee has remained at previous positions.  You don’t want somebody who makes a habit of jumping from job to job at unacceptably short intervals. You must realize that if the salary, which you offer, is not consistent with her expectations, she will likely be searching for another position even though she accepts your offer for a short period of time.

Before you make your choice, arrange for your prospective new nanny to come on the weekend if you cannot do this during the usual workweek in order to see how she interacts with you and the children.

If it turns out that you like more than one candidate let your second choice know that if things don’t work out in the first few weeks with the person you have hired you will let her know.

Its important to avoid being held hostage by your nanny because she knows how much you depend on her, so it is best to be very clear at the outset what you are offering, and what you expect.  Be clear about salary, overtime, paid holidays and sick days. Discuss your expectations specifically with regard to her duties about  full or light cleaning.  Make a list of the chores you expect her to take care of.  Anticipate situations, which might occur and tell her your thoughts and expectations and ask her to do the same.

How To Create A Loyal Nanny

A happy nanny is a loyal nanny!

The most important thing that you can do to keep your nanny happy is to make sure that you are paying a competitive salary.  You do not want your nanny to be at a playground and discover in a conversation with other nannies that she is being paid several hundred dollars less than they are!  If you are seeking help through a nanny agency, they can surely advise you on what the going rate is .  Otherwise, ask friends what the going rate is for an experienced nanny with good references.

Make sure that her schedule is consistent with the going standard on vacations.  Usually a two week paid vacation is acceptable.  Discuss which national and religious holidays you will offer and pay for.  Make sure that she approves of this schedule, and make sure that she considers it to be fair.  You don’t want resentment, which may lead to future disagreements

If a nanny or Au pair is living with you her accommodations should be pleasant and comfortable.  At the very least, she should have a closet, bureau, window and TV in her room.  A private bathroom is desirable but not necessary.

If you want to create an atmosphere of warmth and inclusion, offer to have her share meals with the family or ask if she would prefer her privacy at meal times.  Just make sure it is her choice.  Offer to include her at family outings.

Discuss what her food preferences are and be sure to buy them when you doing the marketing. Let her know you value her opinion on matters concerning the children.  Discuss possible solutions dealing with children’s issues.

If your Au pair is from another country show an interest in her customs. For instance, you could ask if she would like to cook something that she is familiar with from home.

If your Au pair seems lonely, try to find local girls that she might befriend.  You could put the word out among friends and neighbors who similarly have a nanny living with them.

Periodically ask your Au pair if she would like to discuss any issues that might improve the daily routine.

If a situation arises where you feel you must reprimand or instruct the nanny about a matter, do it in a sensitive way.  Try not to create an adversarial or confrontational situation.

Remind the children that it is important to be polite, cooperative and considerate to the nanny.  Explain that you are doing your best to provide for the smooth functioning of the home and you depend on the nanny’s help.

Your peace of mind and happiness depends on the loyalty of the nanny.  So make sure she’s happy!