The need to make sure that your nanny is properly trained in order to know for certain that not only are the basic needs of your child being met, but also that your little one is safe and being stimulated is one that all moms feel.
When is a good time to hire my nanny?
You should hire a nanny as soon as possible given that there is no certainty that the perfect “Mary Poppins” is going to come walking through your door. You will likely have to try out several individuals before you locate one that you trust and who you feel is capable of handling the task of watching your child when you are away.
What features should I look for when choosing a nanny?
You want to hire an honest and reliable person and then train this individual properly. We are often searching for the perfect nanny – a professional who is extremely reliable, willing to work hard and who already knows all that there is to know about taking care of children and who is able to manage all of the duties around the home. All of these things without ever complaining or growing fatigued – This is rarely possible to achieve – instead, try looking for a person who is reliable, honest and willing to learn – then teach them your way of getting things done.
Begin with the very basics, be direct, allow for plenty of questions and give the both of you ample time, this is how to train a nanny.
From the moment that you bring you baby home, encourage your new nanny to spend time with you and your baby. Show your nanny the best way to change the nappy, which creams to apply and when and how often you want to have nappies change, such as when the baby wakes up or in the middle of feeding time. After the nanny has watched this process a few times, allow her to do these things while you watch so that you can offer plenty of guidance.
You can then show your domestic worker how to get the baby down to sleep – again always be direct about the different calming techniques such as swaddling, dummies and rocking.
Last, teach your domestic worker how to feed the baby including timing, quantities and sterilizing – mention how long the baby is allowed to finish the bottle and when he or she will need to be fed. After you feel that the nanny has mastered these basic skills and is capable of doing things your way, spend some time with her in mapping out the normal routine while accounting for time spend feeding the baby, doing household chores, sleeping and play time.
When it comes to housework you might have to lower your standards a bit and should be clear about the different things that you want done on a daily basis like making beds and washing dishes as opposed to activities that would be nice to have done such as polishing the silver of cleaning the windows. It is vital to have a routine established and to explain how important it is for your child to have a routine by acknowledging that the routine will supply the child with a sense of security and will allow your nanny sufficient opportunity to get housework done.
I am just about ready to return to work and have not yet left my baby alone with my nanny, how do I now the nanny will manage?
Give your nanny a chance to get to know your baby and to learn more about the various things that must be done. Begin by allowing her to change the nappy – show her how you want this done and then allow her to complete this task on her own. Slowly begin to add new responsibilities such as sterilizing bottles and feeding and winding the baby. After you are satisfied that she can manage these things. Start popping out with friends to have coffee or go to the shops – without bringing your baby along. Start by leaving when you know the baby is going to be restful or in a pleasant mood and make sure to leave contact numbers so that the nanny can reach out to you if necessary.
Keep in mind that it is vital to give the baby ample time to adjust to the nanny before returning to work so that the baby trusts the nanny and the two are relaxed together.
I have worked very hard to establish a routine for my baby and I want to be certain that the nanny adheres to it.
What should I do?
Create a list of vital activities and times and allow your nanny to follow you throughout the day until she has a clear understanding of how to do these things – show your nanny these activities more than one time and talk about them as you move along. This list should include feed, sleep and wake times.
Create a basic document that can be used as a basic report on the baby’s day such as:
Feed – what time these occur, how much and what, Rest – when and for how long, Play – what, when, where and duration, Nappy changes – when and content details. It is good to encourage observations and comments given that your nanny will spend a large amount of time with your child and will likely be the first to notice changes in your baby such as when bottles are being finished faster and quantities should be increased or when the baby is to have the sleep times adjusted. This way, you will always know how much the baby is eating, sleeping and playing each day and whether or not there are any issues of concern.
Keep in mind that the routines for babies adjust with age, moods and other circumstances that are a lot less predictable, be firm about wanting the nanny to adhere to your routine and ask her to talk with you about any issues so that the routine can be adjusted as necessary, e.g. adjusting sleeping times, introducing solid foods and so forth.
I have hired a wonderful nanny but she isn’t doing it right!
The job can be done in many different ways. Keep in mind that the individual your nanny worked for in the past might have different standards for getting things done. Make sure to go over your instructions and to show how you want things accomplished whenever you can. Write out task lists and always offer feedback – both when things are done correctly and when they need to be improved upon a bit.
While nannies can be very nurturing and sweet, it is vital that they know how to properly stimulate your baby as they begin to grow.
Give your nanny weekly ideas and talk about why the baby should be stimulated. There are tons of interesting books, websites and training courses that can provide ideas for developmental activities that are age-appropriate. Not only will these resources help with the developmental process, but they will give your nanny a challenging change of routine and the chance to do something enjoyable during the day.
I am nervous that she is going to leave my baby to make it through all of her housework and do not want my baby to feel neglected.
Clearly write out your priorities. Your nanny is eager to make you happy and will likely be overwhelmed by the challenge of keeping the house tidy as well as carrying for your little one. It is up to you to establish priorities and to clearly communicate these. For instance, “Please give the baby all of your attention and do all that you can while she sleeps” or “Please tidy the kitchen and make the beds before doing any other house work”
Make sure she knows how to handle an emergency
No home is completely child proofed and accidents can occur. Your nanny should know the dangers of the home and should be able to respond properly in an emergency. Have her complete a First Aid course so that she can address choking, burns, cuts and knows how to stabilise the baby through CPR and mouth to mouth. Keep important numbers next to the telephone including those for mom and dad, fire and poisoning services, ambulance and a reliable neighbor or two, who can assist if necessary.
Keep in mind that your nanny adores your baby and has his or her best interests in mind.
Establish open communication and allow you nanny to share her observations and concerns. Use care when offering constructive criticism as harsh criticism can make the nanny scared of caring for the child when all you really wanted was to have the baby’s nappies changed more frequently.