Countless Nanny -mother relationships become challenging and complex. The employee and the employer live different lifestyles, but both parties strive to create a happy, clean and safe environment where the child will thrive. Working hard to create a genuine, professional working relationship and forming a positive way of communication, which works for both parties could help see nannies and mothers through numerous years of happy child care.
Spell Out Expectations
It is vital to establish a satisfying nanny-mother relationship. Outlining expectations, recording and defining responsibilities, working hours, wages and holidays set the benchmark. Nannies and Mothers must agree to the terms and conditions to avoid future disputes. The employer should clarify the nannies role, it is best not to use indefinite terms such as preparing snacks and carrying out light household duties. Employers who request daily text-message updates regarding the welfare of their child should arrange this with the nanny. Consistency is a useful form of discipline; however, child disciplinary methods should be discussed beforehand. Monica Bassett is the author of a book entitled “The Professional Nanny” and the content within the publication explains the Nanny is not there to replace the parent; she is there in addition to the parent.
Create a Weekly Schedule
A percentage of parenting websites suggest nannies and mothers meet for weekly planning discussions. Both nanny and mother should voice opinions and concerns during these sessions. Regular meeting between nannies and mothers are useful, as they help to avoid exasperation and misperception. The nanny may not wholly agree with the parenting and discipline regime, however, she should respect the parent’s wishes. A nanny who is totally opposed to a certain parenting method should speak out during the weekly planning session.
Learning to Communicate
Countless overworked women employ nannies, but a percentage of these mothers fail to express their expectations, hence the nanny’s role is unclear. This can result in a less than ideal working relationship and passive-aggressive communications. In short, goals and expectations are not met, opinions are ignored, conflicts remain unresolved and concerns are left unexpressed. Mothers must remember that nannies are not mind-readers and a qualified nanny will always take a professional approach and be willing to compromise.
Nannies and Mothers should decide how to communicate, whether it is via a text message, an email or a face to face meeting.
Respect the Schedule and give the Nanny Space
Nannies have personal lives too, and employers who will be late home from work should give the nanny notice, it is only polite and fair to offer to pay the nanny for the overtime worked. The nanny is responsible for being prompt and efficient; however, she should not be expected to step in at a moment’s notice. Employers should implement a back-up plan for emergency childcare. Parents should tell nanny about routine changes, which will affect her, such changes include school camps, change in parents work schedules, vacations and day trips.
Nannies and Mothers should make every effort to get along well, hence welcomes, conversations and farewells should be sincere. A confident nanny will feel comfortable at work and this creates a secure and happy environment for the child.
Eva has helped families find quality care for over 34 years. Founder of Europa Domestics which remains one of the few remaining agencies offering personal service directly with the owner. You will always speak directly to Eva which ensure you get the best expert for your staffing needs. Europa Domestics currently serves New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, & Philidephila since 1974
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