Should Elderly Parents Stay In Their Own Home Or Be Moved To A Health Care Facility?
The challenge of how to best provide elder care for a parent is a difficult one because the situation is almost always fluid, and there are often many variables to consider. What seems like the right decision at any given time may change quickly.
In addition, what seems like the best solution to you may not be what your parent wants.
A common scenario is the loss of a spouse, with it accompanying depression and lethargy. The surviving spouse loses interest in everything, even basic hygiene.
Sometimes the person in charge realizes that the parent is losing focus and the ability to remain safe in the home while caring for himself. Another issue arises if the son or daughter lives far from the parent and finds it difficult to asses the parents’ needs. Having to suddenly make important decisions regarding the care of an elderly parent can seem overwhelming.
My advice is to try and come up with a plan together with all parties concerned….parent and all siblings. Begin with the premise that everybody wants what is best for your parent. All possible options should be presented. Often it is not an easy decision.
If the ultimate decision is to keep your parent at home it is wise to work with a nurses-aide agency to find a compatible caretaker. If your parent lives far away you may opt to move them to your home and have a nurses-aide care for them there. You may start by employing a nurses-aid on a part time basis and increase that to full time if and when needed. You may eventually decide that a live in caretaker is needed.
When looking for a nurses-aide you should help the agency choose someone by carefully detailing your parent’s personality. It is very important to choose someone who is compatible, pleasant and competent.
If your decision is to find a health care facility, make sure, if at all possible, that your parent is comfortable with that decision.